The rollercoaster
Being infertile is such a rollercoaster, and at the moment I'm feeling quite scatterbrained, so I apologize if my writing is badly written... I'm actually starting to get frustrated (normally I'm pretty patient about our situation) with the number of options available, and the rollercoaster of emotions of trying to figure out which is the best direction to move in.
Over the past couple of days Alex has been bouncing back and forth between adoption in Guatemala or Panama. But yesterday I was hearing that adoption is on the back burner and our natural child-birth woes are on the front. Today, it's reverse once again.
I must say that my wife's emotions are all over the place. As her husband... I sometimes don't know what to think. Personally, I am working towards adoption at this very moment... clearing up some past problems (speeding tickets), aggressively working on getting our finances into better shape, and helping with the country of origin and finding a suitable agency.
It's frustrating figuring out the best way to get a healthy infant from a S. America to our loving arms for an economical price, from a reputable agency, and in a reasonable time period. I guess it's not that hard in reality, we just need to focus on the country that will give us what we want, and then find an agency that works in that particular country. Still, with the various reports and testimonials out there going everywhichway, it's still confusing.
Anyway, enough for now... time for bed...
Over the past couple of days Alex has been bouncing back and forth between adoption in Guatemala or Panama. But yesterday I was hearing that adoption is on the back burner and our natural child-birth woes are on the front. Today, it's reverse once again.
I must say that my wife's emotions are all over the place. As her husband... I sometimes don't know what to think. Personally, I am working towards adoption at this very moment... clearing up some past problems (speeding tickets), aggressively working on getting our finances into better shape, and helping with the country of origin and finding a suitable agency.
It's frustrating figuring out the best way to get a healthy infant from a S. America to our loving arms for an economical price, from a reputable agency, and in a reasonable time period. I guess it's not that hard in reality, we just need to focus on the country that will give us what we want, and then find an agency that works in that particular country. Still, with the various reports and testimonials out there going everywhichway, it's still confusing.
Anyway, enough for now... time for bed...
2 Comments:
Hi David!
I found your link on another blog. I wanted to highly recommend a book by Judith Daniluk, "The Infertility Survival Guide: How to Cope with the Challenges, While Maintaining Your Sanity, Dignity, and Relationships." It's about processing infertility issues and making treatment decisions. It's extremely helpful for couples facing a fork in the road. Dr. Daniluk specializes in counseling infertile couples through an IF clinic in Canada and I had the privilege of interviewing her a couple of times. She was already specializing in the field when she discovered that she had secondary infertility and I'm sure that this is part of why she is such a caring and compassionate therapist.
good luck to you both!!!
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Dawn, at 8:07 AM
Just wanted to say THANKS for writing. It's nice to hear a man's perspective because sometimes it feels like all of the burden, hurt, obsessive thinking is on the women. We know the men care and feel something, but we never get to understand what exactly they are thinking, even sometimes our own. Keep writing and I'll keep reading!
Kim
http://private-problems.typepad.com
And thanks to previous poster for book recommendation. Sounds like it might be worth checking out.
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Galloping Cats, at 10:27 AM
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