Depression & Time-management
How does one deal with depression every day? I feel bad for my wife, she feels depressed alot & I often don't know how to deal. I do my best to console her, but I feel cheap saying that "It will all work out" and all of the other lines that I dish out (But really do believe), all of the time.
Being the primary breadwinner of the family, and a Cancer who tends to have his mind in the clouds, fantasizing (er, correction: visualizing & manifesting) I tend to get caught up in career-oriented stuff. I have a problem of spending too much time on the computer (chronically speaking). In addition to my need to focus on career-searches, business & social networking, working on the website, reading the news & studying up on various topics of interest, I guess it's all really addicting. My wife is right that I'm a work-a-holic, kinda. I tend to get distracted easily. See, right now, my main goal is to expand my business network and try to find my way into a higher paying job (or any job as of last week). I am accused of not spending enough time with my wife, or researching adoption, or exploring/interacting with others on an intra-weekly basis in the infertile blogosphere. It's a tough job. (Sorry, just had to throw in a Bush-quote :)) I guess it's a matter of balance - something I struggle with daily (ONLY when I have alot on my mind that I'd like to accomplish). Other times, I enjoy reading together in bed, watching TV/Movies together, exercise together, etc.
Am I so wrong... Maybe it's just the man's role in the relationship to be driven to succeed. So my sperm is slow & wobbly - as the predominantly positive person, I KNOW things will work out fine, we just have to visualize the results we want and stop being so negative (please forgive me - this is my internal dialogue and I would never voice these words to any infertile, being that the voicing these words are known as breaking one of the many commandments of infertility). The reality is that I just don't worry about these things too often. Maybe I should. The problem for me is that I get distracted easily and forget to get back to things when inertia runs out. Like Native American adoption - I was so gung-ho on the process, but when we learned that my wife's grandmother didn't have the name of the relative that was part of the Cherokee bloodline, and that further research (which I'm not sure either of us knows what to do) would be a big effort, things just petered out. I'm still immensely interested, but I need information.
I guess part of my struggle is finding the balance. Another part of my issue on the computer is that I need to do more prioritizing, less procrastination of the important stuff, save the interesting stuff for last, and when I'm working on something, I have to learn how to drop something in the middle and pick it up again later on. That's a biggie for me. I have a very hard time picking up where I left off. The ideal thing for me is to work straight through on something. Interruptions suck, but they do happen.
Being the primary breadwinner of the family, and a Cancer who tends to have his mind in the clouds, fantasizing (er, correction: visualizing & manifesting) I tend to get caught up in career-oriented stuff. I have a problem of spending too much time on the computer (chronically speaking). In addition to my need to focus on career-searches, business & social networking, working on the website, reading the news & studying up on various topics of interest, I guess it's all really addicting. My wife is right that I'm a work-a-holic, kinda. I tend to get distracted easily. See, right now, my main goal is to expand my business network and try to find my way into a higher paying job (or any job as of last week). I am accused of not spending enough time with my wife, or researching adoption, or exploring/interacting with others on an intra-weekly basis in the infertile blogosphere. It's a tough job. (Sorry, just had to throw in a Bush-quote :)) I guess it's a matter of balance - something I struggle with daily (ONLY when I have alot on my mind that I'd like to accomplish). Other times, I enjoy reading together in bed, watching TV/Movies together, exercise together, etc.
Am I so wrong... Maybe it's just the man's role in the relationship to be driven to succeed. So my sperm is slow & wobbly - as the predominantly positive person, I KNOW things will work out fine, we just have to visualize the results we want and stop being so negative (please forgive me - this is my internal dialogue and I would never voice these words to any infertile, being that the voicing these words are known as breaking one of the many commandments of infertility). The reality is that I just don't worry about these things too often. Maybe I should. The problem for me is that I get distracted easily and forget to get back to things when inertia runs out. Like Native American adoption - I was so gung-ho on the process, but when we learned that my wife's grandmother didn't have the name of the relative that was part of the Cherokee bloodline, and that further research (which I'm not sure either of us knows what to do) would be a big effort, things just petered out. I'm still immensely interested, but I need information.
I guess part of my struggle is finding the balance. Another part of my issue on the computer is that I need to do more prioritizing, less procrastination of the important stuff, save the interesting stuff for last, and when I'm working on something, I have to learn how to drop something in the middle and pick it up again later on. That's a biggie for me. I have a very hard time picking up where I left off. The ideal thing for me is to work straight through on something. Interruptions suck, but they do happen.
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